Many things are counter-intuitive since we are in an upside-down world. Confession etc never occur naturally.
Be responsive and not reactive.
Get yourself off your hands.
That's crazy making
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Connect - Movement and practices
What do we want to: keep, stop, start doing?
Need an outreach mindset- reach more people than you're loosing
A movement has:
Values
Beliefs
Mission (what we want to see happen) and
Practices
(Linus' practices for a church or home group):
Hospitality
Planting of gospel
Devotion to Christ
'As you go discipleship'
Risky community with service and mission
Need an outreach mindset- reach more people than you're loosing
A movement has:
Values
Beliefs
Mission (what we want to see happen) and
Practices
(Linus' practices for a church or home group):
Hospitality
Planting of gospel
Devotion to Christ
'As you go discipleship'
Risky community with service and mission
Connect - leadership development
Good isn't to do the ministry but to enable other to do
Pour into and pull out of people
Make the leader responsible for replacing themselves
Recruit
Train
Deploy
Mentor
Nurture
Organic is good but we still need some structure of some kind (like APEST)
To identify Leaders- Qualities needed in a leader:
Faithful
Available
Spiritual
Teachable
Value leaders as well as followers- talk about both
Pour into and pull out of people
Make the leader responsible for replacing themselves
Recruit
Train
Deploy
Mentor
Nurture
Organic is good but we still need some structure of some kind (like APEST)
To identify Leaders- Qualities needed in a leader:
Faithful
Available
Spiritual
Teachable
Value leaders as well as followers- talk about both
Monday, August 24, 2009
Search to Belong- Myers
Public- Eagles, big church gathering (almost a culture)
Social- coffee at church, serving together, neighbors
Private- small groups, dinners
Intimate- only a few people in this group
Each space has its own unique way in which belonging is expressed and experienced. Confusion arises when we expect belonging to be expressed and experienced the same way in all four spaces. Each space provides its own unique way of experiencing community. To expect otherwise is to invite frustration. Following are the four spaces with a short description highlighting the distinct way belonging is experienced in each space:
* "Public belonging happens when we connect through outside influences. It isn't about connecting person to person; it is about sharing a common experience. Think of fans at a football game, members of the PTA, shoppers at a grocery store. In each case an outside influence brings these people into a common grouping. They connect because of the outside influence, not because of shared personal information" (p. 41).
* Social belonging is often denigrated as superficial, but it is vitally important. "In many ways, social belonging is the 'small talk' of our relationships" (p. 45). The neighbor relationships of social belonging allow us to "share snapshots" of who we are with others. A shared social space also "provides a safe selection space for us to decide with whom we would like to grow a 'deeper' relationship" (p. 46).
* Personal belonging involves the sharing of private information. It takes place in a safe setting where trustworthy confidences are built. "[W]e connect through sharing private - although not 'naked' - experiences, feelings, and thoughts" (p. 47). The people to whom we belong are friends or "close friends" rather than acquaintances.
* "In intimate space, we share 'naked' experiences, feelings, and thoughts. Very few relationships are intimate. Intimate relationships are those in which another person knows the 'naked truth' about us and yet the two of us are 'not ashamed'" (p. 50).
Sources: http://www.theocentric.com/ecclesiology/community/putting_small_groups_in_their.html
Social- coffee at church, serving together, neighbors
Private- small groups, dinners
Intimate- only a few people in this group
Each space has its own unique way in which belonging is expressed and experienced. Confusion arises when we expect belonging to be expressed and experienced the same way in all four spaces. Each space provides its own unique way of experiencing community. To expect otherwise is to invite frustration. Following are the four spaces with a short description highlighting the distinct way belonging is experienced in each space:
* "Public belonging happens when we connect through outside influences. It isn't about connecting person to person; it is about sharing a common experience. Think of fans at a football game, members of the PTA, shoppers at a grocery store. In each case an outside influence brings these people into a common grouping. They connect because of the outside influence, not because of shared personal information" (p. 41).
* Social belonging is often denigrated as superficial, but it is vitally important. "In many ways, social belonging is the 'small talk' of our relationships" (p. 45). The neighbor relationships of social belonging allow us to "share snapshots" of who we are with others. A shared social space also "provides a safe selection space for us to decide with whom we would like to grow a 'deeper' relationship" (p. 46).
* Personal belonging involves the sharing of private information. It takes place in a safe setting where trustworthy confidences are built. "[W]e connect through sharing private - although not 'naked' - experiences, feelings, and thoughts" (p. 47). The people to whom we belong are friends or "close friends" rather than acquaintances.
* "In intimate space, we share 'naked' experiences, feelings, and thoughts. Very few relationships are intimate. Intimate relationships are those in which another person knows the 'naked truth' about us and yet the two of us are 'not ashamed'" (p. 50).
Sources: http://www.theocentric.com/ecclesiology/community/putting_small_groups_in_their.html
Areas of Development Linus
5 "Olympic Rings"
5 Ministry development- passions, gifts
4 stratigic development
3 Characterologic development- inside out
2 Relational development
1 Spiritual development
5 Ministry development- passions, gifts
4 stratigic development
3 Characterologic development- inside out
2 Relational development
1 Spiritual development
Session 2 Connect- Transition
Encouragement- warning is one definition- prepare is another
Common for us all
Expect it- dismantle your idols. Are you making an idol out of your spouse or kids? Do we think we will never or could never loose them?
Ecc 7:2 Start in the house of mourning.
:3 Sorrow- A broken heart for the world not being like God says it should be.
Our natural reaction is to not get as close as we are with the first people we connect with when that gets ripped away. We need to be counterinteuative. That is the way of Christ so often in this upside down world.
World's way of handeling loss:
1Denial 2Anger (a valid emotion but not usefull until turned to grief) 3Depression (anger turned inward) 4Bargaining 5Acceptance
This is because we are dismantling an idol. We give disproportional weight to something. Distorts reality. When we make an idol we distance ourselves from teh reality of the situation. Only one being is worthy of worship. We must dismantle our expectations of "the way things should be".
Ex. Me with Barcelona. I wanted to go so bad and I had built it up for so long that when we got in late and had to leave sooner and we were choosing a breakfast time I got defensive. I couldn't let go of my idol. They weren't taking that from me, so I picked the earlier breakfast time without even asking anyone else and when Kerri asked me about the breakfast I told her that I may never get the chance to come back and basically need this. Not a healthy way to act. When I dismanteled my idol and rememered that I am in God's hands' I was able to respond instead of react.
If we are not dismanteling an idol we can start at 5 and get rid of anger, denial, bargaining, and depression. A biblical view on handelin loss is
1)Acceptance (we can't redeem the past- we must accept there is nothing we can do to change it. We have a powerlesness in the face of it. Ex boulder in road, can't move it but wisdom will help us navigate around it.)
2)Sadness (expresses the helplesness of our losses)
3)Thankfulness- thankful that you were in my life, thankful that you will color my self forever, thankfull for what I brought you and what you left with me. God has used this to shape my soul (loss included- these things must be necessary since they exist and God doesn't allow worthless things to happen). God will redeem it. (Thankfulness admits dependance.)
4)Hope
*Nothing we do for God will be wasted. God wastes no investment of yours, so be fully present whereever you're at.
This is an argument for making deep relationships constantly. Don't be afraid of the pain and loss. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. 'grief is the price of love'
Grief process is necessary for church growth and multiplication- changing small groups and personal spaces. And for new friendships- we are limited ex legos with only so many connection points available (time constraint)
Leadership- there is a vacuum when leaders leave that people step up into. We are more capable than we realize (we need passion and commitment to Christ). God isn't looking for perfect; He's looking for willing. ex. us going to France, not the most learned or longest time committed or most personable but willing.
Jesus grieved John the baptist's death. "When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place." -Mt 14:13
"Healthy families process grief"
Balloons aren't meant to last forever
Paul leaves Ephesus:
Acts 20:36- 38When he had said this, he knelt down with all of them and prayed. They all wept as they embraced him and kissed him. What grieved them most was his statement that they would never see his face again. Then they accompanied him to the ship.
Hud's "tools for perspective"
Awareness of the awefulness of death Job 14
Lament -emotions in and to- PS102, 130 85
Not alone in suffering Isaiah 63:9
endurance of faith PS 103 Hab 3
Christian Hope Rev 21
Common for us all
Expect it- dismantle your idols. Are you making an idol out of your spouse or kids? Do we think we will never or could never loose them?
Ecc 7:2 Start in the house of mourning.
:3 Sorrow- A broken heart for the world not being like God says it should be.
Our natural reaction is to not get as close as we are with the first people we connect with when that gets ripped away. We need to be counterinteuative. That is the way of Christ so often in this upside down world.
World's way of handeling loss:
1Denial 2Anger (a valid emotion but not usefull until turned to grief) 3Depression (anger turned inward) 4Bargaining 5Acceptance
This is because we are dismantling an idol. We give disproportional weight to something. Distorts reality. When we make an idol we distance ourselves from teh reality of the situation. Only one being is worthy of worship. We must dismantle our expectations of "the way things should be".
Ex. Me with Barcelona. I wanted to go so bad and I had built it up for so long that when we got in late and had to leave sooner and we were choosing a breakfast time I got defensive. I couldn't let go of my idol. They weren't taking that from me, so I picked the earlier breakfast time without even asking anyone else and when Kerri asked me about the breakfast I told her that I may never get the chance to come back and basically need this. Not a healthy way to act. When I dismanteled my idol and rememered that I am in God's hands' I was able to respond instead of react.
If we are not dismanteling an idol we can start at 5 and get rid of anger, denial, bargaining, and depression. A biblical view on handelin loss is
1)Acceptance (we can't redeem the past- we must accept there is nothing we can do to change it. We have a powerlesness in the face of it. Ex boulder in road, can't move it but wisdom will help us navigate around it.)
2)Sadness (expresses the helplesness of our losses)
3)Thankfulness- thankful that you were in my life, thankful that you will color my self forever, thankfull for what I brought you and what you left with me. God has used this to shape my soul (loss included- these things must be necessary since they exist and God doesn't allow worthless things to happen). God will redeem it. (Thankfulness admits dependance.)
4)Hope
*Nothing we do for God will be wasted. God wastes no investment of yours, so be fully present whereever you're at.
This is an argument for making deep relationships constantly. Don't be afraid of the pain and loss. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. 'grief is the price of love'
Grief process is necessary for church growth and multiplication- changing small groups and personal spaces. And for new friendships- we are limited ex legos with only so many connection points available (time constraint)
Leadership- there is a vacuum when leaders leave that people step up into. We are more capable than we realize (we need passion and commitment to Christ). God isn't looking for perfect; He's looking for willing. ex. us going to France, not the most learned or longest time committed or most personable but willing.
Jesus grieved John the baptist's death. "When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place." -Mt 14:13
"Healthy families process grief"
Balloons aren't meant to last forever
Paul leaves Ephesus:
Acts 20:36- 38When he had said this, he knelt down with all of them and prayed. They all wept as they embraced him and kissed him. What grieved them most was his statement that they would never see his face again. Then they accompanied him to the ship.
Hud's "tools for perspective"
Awareness of the awefulness of death Job 14
Lament -emotions in and to- PS102, 130 85
Not alone in suffering Isaiah 63:9
endurance of faith PS 103 Hab 3
Christian Hope Rev 21
Thoughts on JC discipleship
Playing games with them builds:
humility
fun
joy
freedom
community
teamwork
going after a goal
And puts them into practice and it creates an environment
Camps
Activities (bowling, amusement park, rock climbing, ice cream, good news fest etc.)
Asked about JC's and all the hands shot up. 17 kids volunteered to serve 6-10 year olds.
We gave them contracts with expectations, and asked for commitment
We gave them an opportunity and put the bar up higer of what we were asking them.
Did a training day to do team building and get to know you games
They were together in it. Their identity changed from being kids to being responsible junior counselors and leaders. Leaders not kids.
We equipped them and told them what to expect and what was expected.
They followed through with their commitment in a big way. Chearing, crafts, etc
Serving together made our focus out; on the kids and not on ourselves.
They were paired with leaders so it was many people speaking into their lives and working with them, not just us. We were all in it together.
Growth!
humility
fun
joy
freedom
community
teamwork
going after a goal
And puts them into practice and it creates an environment
Camps
Activities (bowling, amusement park, rock climbing, ice cream, good news fest etc.)
Asked about JC's and all the hands shot up. 17 kids volunteered to serve 6-10 year olds.
We gave them contracts with expectations, and asked for commitment
We gave them an opportunity and put the bar up higer of what we were asking them.
Did a training day to do team building and get to know you games
They were together in it. Their identity changed from being kids to being responsible junior counselors and leaders. Leaders not kids.
We equipped them and told them what to expect and what was expected.
They followed through with their commitment in a big way. Chearing, crafts, etc
Serving together made our focus out; on the kids and not on ourselves.
They were paired with leaders so it was many people speaking into their lives and working with them, not just us. We were all in it together.
Growth!
Monday, August 10, 2009
Hud visit notes
Relationships broken at the fall- God, Earth, one another, and self. Self breaks all the others too. We want to be independent but it is impossible to be independent. We are either dependent on God or on sin. We worship health, minds, status, kids, cars, etc.
God gives us access to freedom in the middle of this upsidedown world. Now we can return to real life and relationships.
If we functioin the way that we were designed to function we will be the most free. Ex.- stool- designed for sitting, what happens if we stand- we become unbalanced.
What does it look like to reclaim our souls in a biblical manner?
Evil one means fragment, seperate, divorce- not connection
2 opposite ways to view life
-world in power of evil one
-Jesus is Lord of all the Earth
God gives us access to freedom in the middle of this upsidedown world. Now we can return to real life and relationships.
If we functioin the way that we were designed to function we will be the most free. Ex.- stool- designed for sitting, what happens if we stand- we become unbalanced.
What does it look like to reclaim our souls in a biblical manner?
Evil one means fragment, seperate, divorce- not connection
2 opposite ways to view life
-world in power of evil one
-Jesus is Lord of all the Earth
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