From Fabermazlish- examples of unproductive parenting

I. Blaming and Accusing
"Your dirty fingerprints are on the door agian! Why do you always do that?.. What's the matter with you anyway? Can't you ever do anything right?... How many times do I have o tell you to use the doorknob? The trouble with you is you never listen."

II. Name Calling
"It's below freezing today and you're wearing a light jacket! How dumb can you get? Boy, that is a really stupid thing to do."
"Here, let me fix the bike for you. You know how unmechanical you are."
"Look at the way you eat! You're disgusting."
"You have to be a slob to keep such a filthy room. You live like an animal."

III. Threats
"Just you touch that lamp once more and you'll get a smack."
"If you don't spit that gum out this minute, i'm going to open your mouth and take it out."
"If you're not finished dressing by the time I count to three, I'm leaving without you!"

IV. Commands
"I want you to clean up your room right this minute."
"Help me carry in the packages. Hurry up!"
"You still didn't take out the garbage? Do it now... What are you waiting for? Move!"

V. Lecturing and Moralizing

"Do you think that was a nice thing to do- to grab that book from me? I can see you don't realize how important good manners are. What you have to understand is that if we expect people to be polite to us, then we must be polite to them in return. You wouldn't want anyone to grab from you, would you? Then you shouldn't grab from anyone else. We do unto others as we would have others do unto us."

VI.Warnings
"Watch it, you'll bun yourself."
"Careful, you'll get hit by a car!"
"Don't climb there! Do you want to fall?"
"Put on your sweaer on you'll catch a bad cold."

VII. Martydom Statements
"Will you two stop that screaming! What are you tryinng to do to me... make me sick...give me a heart attack?"
"Wait till you have children of your own. Then you'll know what aggrivation is."
"Do you see these grey hairs? That's because of you. You're putting me in my grave."

VIII. Comparisons
"Why can't you be more like your brother? He always gets his work done ahead of time."
"Lisa has such beauiful table manners. You'd never catch her eating with her fingers."
"Why don't you dress the way Gary does? Hw always looks so neat- short hair, shirt tucked in. It's a pleasure to look at him."

IX. Sarcasm
"You knew you had a test tomorrow and left your book in school? Oh smart! That was a brilliant thing to do."
"Is that what your're wearing- polka dots and plaid? Well you ought to get a lot of compliments today."
"Is that the homework you're bringing to school tomorrow? Well maybe your teacher can read Chinese; I can't"

X. Prophecy
"You lied to me about your report card, didn't you? Do you know what you're going to be when you grow up? A person nobody can trust."
"Just keep on being selfish. You'll se, no one is ever going to want to play with you. You'll have no friends."
"All you ever do is complain. You've never once tried to help yourself. I can see you ten years from now- stuck with the same problem and still complaining."

What methods did your parents use to get you to do what they wanted you to do?
Do you fall into the same patterns?
What parenting styles have you used?