Coaching training day 1

Performance Consultants Coaching Training
Day one exercises and notes

Ice Breakers
· What were you like as a kid? (you are probably still that kid in a lot of ways)
· Tell about a leap you took into the unknown.
· Share an embarrassing moment.
· Talk about something you are proud of. (coaching can start with what you are good at)

Coaching needs to be practiced. We need 200 hours coaching training. Keep a journal on the sessions. We need to both coach and be coached.

Our objectives for this coaching training are _________________? Post-it

In groups answer:
1. What is coaching?
2. What is the purpose of coaching? (going further, faster, more smoothly, and more aligned than without coaching)
3. What are the different ways of learning?
4. What are the advantages and disadvantages of each way of learning?
5. Why is coaching more effective than other learning approaches?

Notes:
o In coaching group objective move down into personal goals. One person may need to work on speed and another on remembering their plays in order for the team to get better.
o Coaching both supports and challenges. We give feedback to help bring the goals into realization. Part of coaching is accountability. We are working on responsibility and awareness (when it clicks, we get clarity, hope) . Changing habits is tough; awareness is not enough. It’s important not to make the coachee feel guilty or uncomfortable in the responsibility piece.
o Coaching tends to look forward more than backwards where therapy tends to deal more with the past than the future. Coaching is more measurable.
o The average coaching session is usually 2- 6 two-hour sessions. Coaches deal with a time restraint.
o Coaching responds to the real needs of today. Ex lost in society, looking for meaning, dealing with insecurities and blind spots
o Coaches don’t just look at the behavior; they look at what’s behind the behavior. Objectives change so we need to get at the root first.
o Take issues one thing at a time. Ex. a tennis coach doesn’t work on the way you hold the racket, footwork, etc all at once.
o Prescriptive teaching (I have the knowledge and if you knew what I know you’d be ok) is limited. There is no hierarchy in coaching; it is not a transfer of knowledge (consulting). It is not prescriptive.
o Capture key words ex. Boiling over. Look at body language. Write down ideas. Don’t be afraid to interrupt. Work through it, not around it.

Mandalla Painting exercise

Outside of the circles- paint how you perceive the outside world.
Outer circle- How do you protect yourself from the outside world? (what barriers do you put up? What barriers do your coachees put up? Few are conscious of how much self protection is going on)
Middle circle part 1- How do you find your security? (is it tangible or intangible? What happens when these things are not there?)
Middle circle part 2- face to face; relationships; What do you look for? How do you approach relationships?
Middle circle part 3- Leadership; how do I fit into leadership?
Center circle- Our core; How do you connect with and bring out the core of yourself?

o Make sure if you do an exercise like this it feels ‘not marked or graded’. Help them to have fun and be free and know they are not being judged on their art or answers.
o This exercise show some of the varied perspectives of the world we bring.

What a coach does:

1) Think of someone who had a positive influence in your life and helped you go further than you would have gone on your own.
2) What did they do or say to give effect?
3) What effect did that have on you?
4) How much time did that person spend on you?
5) Where was his or her focus while he or she was with you?

Notes from our group:

o Personal (for both people) and not corporate
o Comfortable and secure while being challenged. Not feeling threatened.
o Kindness; not just projecting but really feeling
o Stays focused on the coachee
o A good coach always sees the potential in the other person
o They are available/ made themselves available
o Quality of time over amount of time spent
o Passionate

Elements of Coaching:
1. Questioning
2. Active listening
3. Effective feedback (they lead the person into something)
4. Relational (The coaching relationship is the foundation of coaching)
5. Coach does not bring their baggage into the coaching time.

Group time for questions:
1. What are my natural strengths in coaching?
2. What will be a stretch for me?

21 Questions

1. What quality do you want to see developed in yourself?
2. What will be the advantages to me and to others if this quality is developed?
3. With more of this quality what would you be doing differently?
4. Picture a film of yourself five years from now. You have 100% of this quality. What do you see? (What are the advantages of having this quality?)
5. What would be a milestone along the way?
6. How long will it take to get to the first step?
7. Where am I now on a scale from one to ten from this first step?
8. In the present time, without enough of this quality, how do you feel?
9. What have you done already to acquire more of this quality?
10. What’s stopping you from doing more?
11. If you didn’t acquire this quality, what are the consequences?
12. Sep outside and observe yourself. What’s really going on here?
13. If your survival depended on developing this quality, what would you do?
14. Think of someone you admire. What would they do about it?
15. The responsibility is yours for acquiring this quality. Other people can’t do it for you. Make a recommendation to yourself for what to do.
16. What could come in the way to slow you down?
17. What personal resistance could get in the way of your implementing your action plan?
18. What will you do to eliminate that resistance?
19. What support may you need and how will you get it?
20. What is your level of commitment to carry this out? (Are there lots of reasons to do it and lots of reasons not to or only reasons to work on it?)
21. (Group question) How did these questions effect you?

Homework:
Fill in your life track.


Read one of the following:

Coaching for Performance John Whitmore
Coaching Questions Tony Stolzfus
Coaching—Evoking Excellence in Others James Flaherty
Developing the Leader Within You John Maxwell
Emotional Intelligence Daniel Goleman
Working with Emotional Intelligence Daniel Goleman